A Better Mother through Blogging

The more I immerse myself in the blog world, the more I realize what a profound act mommy (parent) blogging can be. When we put ourselves out there we open the door for realization and growth, in ourselves, our readers and our challengers. And that makes us better parents.

Earlier this week HerBadMother wrote a bad mother manifesto. I loved it. It jolted me out of my self-centred stupour that left me believing that all the Good Mothers were doing it Right and I was, mostly, doing it Wrong. It reminded me that there is no Right Way and that my daily efforts, victories and screw ups are all part of It, no judgement required.

Then Seagull Fountain wrote a response piece. I loved it. It jolted me out of my self-centred stupour that left me believing that this was all supposed to be easy and fun and if it got hard that meant I wasn't doing Right. It reminded me that there is value and honour and work involved in trying to do better and that my daily efforts, victories and screw up are all part of It.

My Bad mommy self gives me the power to embrace where I am, to honestly be ok with me and my choices (even the ones that involve 6am Treehouse TV for my 3 year old so I can sleep, or in this case, write) and that gives me the freedom, and the power, to shake off the insecure and empty Pursuit of Perfection and just Do It Better.

I take classes. I read and listen to the Experts. I also listen to other moms, to my self and to my children (oh yeah, and my husband. Sure. Yes. I, um, listen to him too). I love learning how to be a better mom but that's only possible when I can love the mom I am right now.

You, my momosphere, and your honest sharing in your writing and your comments makes each one more possible. Thanks.

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